Ian had his appointment with his surgeon about the options for his knee. As he has a tear in the ligament, he is awaiting a date for an operation. They wont know the full extent of the damage until they get in there with the camera, and this will be the difference between getting back to normal quickly or not.
All was going well until he said something that really ruffled my feathers. He asked if there were any dates we had plans for in case a cancellation occurred. Both Ian and I said no unless our daughter was to be hospitalised, which would be something we couldn't plan for anyway.
He asked what was wrong with her and Ian explained she had Cystic Fibrosis. He turned to face us at this point and said that "Cystic Fibrosis is a very different disease now to how it used to be" to which Ian and I both agreed. He then continued to say that most people are living a normal life span. I replied by saying hopefully, although I wouldn't say 37 was a 'normal' life span. He continued talking and this is what really ruffled me,
"All Cystic Fibrosis is these days is a couple of niggly chest infections, it's manageable and not the worry it once was".
Excuse me? Manageable, maybe to an extent but not a worry? NOT A WORRY?
I wish that all Sophie had to deal with were a few niggly chest infections, that would be AWESOME. Can someone tell me which Cystic Fibrosis this is, I'd like to trade now.
Luckily Ian's consult was over at this point otherwise I may have had one of my 'speech' moments. They don't happen very often as I'm not a real believer in being negative and ramming information down peoples throats but I came very close at that moment.
It wasn't that he had little knowledge, it was the fact that he was a doctor who was having a verbal diarrhoea moment and the 'facts' that he was quoting were quite flawed. I'd love to find one family affected by Cystic Fibrosis that can honestly say it isn't a worry and know their secret.
Normally I wouldn't waste energy on this kind of thing but I guess it's because we are desperately trying to raise awareness to keep the money flowing in for the Gene Therapy trials, and for a medical professional to spout such utter nonsense just felt like a huge slap in the face.
If this is what the health professionals think, what hope have we of convincing the rest of the public that Cystic Fibrosis is a SERIOUS and WORRYING disease which still takes young lives?
Needless to say, we left quite sharpish.
On a brighter note, this blog turned one last week! Yes I have officially been blogging for a year and must thank everyone who bothers to read my ramblings and actually come back for more! THANK YOU.
I will leave you with a pile of pictures of stink bomb having fun in the sun :)
Sophie launching a ball at my dad..
Sophie cheering because she managed to hit him with the ball..
Remember the bean plant Sophie came home from pre-school with? Well this is it!!
Look, it even grew beans, she's so proud of herself...
Tunnel time..
A few minutes time out to have her milk feed via her Mic-key button...
Seriously this girl never stops running...
Playing a tune on her new Thomas guitar...
Posing...
Take care all and please read my previous post and help out the CF community if you can. Many thanks.
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Love, Love, Love the photo's Sophie looks so well and very happy with life, like the platt, it makes her look so grown up. Words fail me Gem, what on earth is that DOCTOR on about, he evidently has never seen how sick a child can get with CF or the round of daily treatments they have to endure just to keep as healthy as is possible.Cf is a very serious disease and as we all know, to many children loose their battle with it at a very young age. If CF is not his field then he should not comment on something he doesn't understand. So I take it then Gem just give Sophie some cough medicine and a few antibiotics then all will be well (I don't think so).I for one am pretty angry with his insensitive comments. Take care all xxxx
ReplyDeleteIgnorance is no excuse for what that doctor said. Did you see you are on the tots100 this week
ReplyDeleteI did see that Jen! I have absolutely no idea how my little blog ended up being mentioned bit I'm genuinely humbled and pleased from an awareness point of view.
ReplyDeleteFor anyone that hasn't got the foggiest what I'm on about go here http://www.tots100.co.uk/2011/07/14/best-of-the-mummy-blogs-ten-at-ten-21/
Thanks for the comments ladies, glad to see I haven't overreacted xx
Such beautiful photos.
ReplyDeleteI can't believe the doctor actually said that to you. How dare he be so damn rude. I'm hearing a lot of bad stories about doctors and care in the NHS recently, as though people don't seem to bother anymore about what they say or how they go about treating a patient. It seems that bad manners is being extended to the hospital and surgery as well as in the street, on the roads and in a customer service environment.
CJ xx
OMG - I cannot believe that a doctor could say that, its disgraceful. He obviously hasn't a clue what he's talking about, ohh, I'm livid and I wasn't even there! Gem, you did well not to floor him - don't think I could have held my tongue.
ReplyDeleteGlad Soph is well, love the photos, she looks fantastic. Give her a kiss from us xxx
There never seems to be a happy medium - people (including doctors) are either doom and gloom or totally dismissive. My friend is currently doing his foundation training as a doctor and the extent of coverage of CF in his degree was 30 mins - that's what you're dealing with when you talk to many doctors. Some may come across CF during foundation and specialty training but this depends on the rotations selected and many will continue their medical careers with very little direct knowledge of the condition. Try not to let such people bother you - they may have the title Dr but they are little better informed than village idiots.
ReplyDeleteI don't know if I could hold my tongue like you did. Congratulations. I also might consider walking out to never darken his doorstep again if he made me angry enough. Niggly chest cold my foot!
ReplyDeleteYour daughter is adorable! And, from the looks of it, she has a greener thumb than me (I couldn't grow FUNGUS if I tried).
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What medical professional would say such ignorant things?! Glad to read that you all took it so calmly - some people have no class!
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I can't believe that he said that! He obviously has NO experience in CF whatsoever. It sounds like his only knowledge of it is reading a text book. What an idiot! I would have really gone off on a massive rant if he said that to me! What a complete numpty!
ReplyDeleteThe pictures are amazing! I miss those tunnels! I was going through my memory box that has everything I've done from birth to present. I found a newspaper article with me in a tunnel at nursery! I do however look slightly derranged!
Lots of hugs!
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I have learned through my own experinces with our daughter who has a brain disorder that even doctors have the right to be ignorant. It never ceases to amaze me when a profesional, who you would think would know better banters on and on about something they clearly don't know about. I'm sorry you had to go through this when you were trying to get your husband cared for. I love the pictures of your princess, what a doll she is!!! Thank you for writing about your experinces and bringing attention to this. Take care!
ReplyDeleteI am a big believer in talking to supervisors of supervisors but I know the NHS so you handled it as well as you could....Your daughter is lovely! She must be the light of your life.
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